I’ve noticed a pattern in past new year’s resolutions: write more, exercise more, shower more. You see?
This year, as I stepped back to take a look at my proverbial plate, I thought to myself, why am I adding more? What could I take away from my life that would make it better?
Facebook less. That’s not a typo, that’s “Facebook” as a verb. And that doesn’t mean I will be Instagramming more.
Watch less TV. I’m currently in a bingewatching foggy hangover state from staying up way too late watching — don’t judge — season 2 of Girlfriends’ Guide to Divorce.
Shop online less. It’s not so much that I buy a lot online, rather I go from site to site adding items to carts. “Lindsey, did you forget something?” is a popular email in my inbox. It’s therapeutic, but so is cutting.
Looking at my resolutions, you will see a theme within a theme. We spend 70% of our lives in front of digital media. Yipes. Admittedly some of these “less” resolutions may imply more of something else, but hopefully that will be a healthy natural reaction in the right direction, and not a force against the fibers of my being and all I hold dear. (Note, I did not say “drink less”. I’m not a masochist.)
Every year, I tend to get a tad overzealous when it comes to New Year’s Resolutions. So this year, I’m using the week before to put my ideals into action and get a feel for how realistic my resolutions actually are. Will I adjust to the upgrade of a healthier, more domestic version of myself? Or will I crash and burn?
1. Staying on top of my laundry list. Literally. This has been an ongoing battle. For the sake of our marriage, I finally had to let Dave fend for himself in this arena, as keeping up with my own piles of laundry, both dirty and clean (plus that sneaky third pile that’s too clean to be dirty but not dirty enough to wash yet) was just too much to take. Then add a toddler into the mix who has more outfit changes a day than Kate Middleton and laundry becomes one endless, thankless task. But as my mom says, “Sometimes you have to do things you don’t want to do.” For me, one of those things is folding and putting away laundry. I just caught up on some laundry during Jed’s nap and plan to earn frequent folding miles in front of the TV. Key to success: combining the ick of folding and putting away with the fun of watching TV or catching up on the phone with an old friend.
2. Practicing yoga once a week. I’m sure I should practice more than once a week, but considering I haven’t hit the mat in more than four months, weekly is a lofty aspiration. Dave is always encouraging me to go. He tells me just to name the time and he’ll watch Jed while I work out. But the time comes and I find another distraction or to-do that needs my attention. The guilt weighs me down, ultimately keeping me at home or out running errands. Key to success: taking help when it’s offered. I’m always telling my sister she needs to make more time for herself. I need to practice what I preach. The helping hand has been extended… I just have to grab it.
3. Keeping a clean sink. This will by far be my greatest challenge. I have friends who cannot go to sleep at night knowing that a single plate is sitting in their sink. I do not have this problem. Dave and I will let dishes “soak” for days waiting for the other to get grossed out enough to cave and wash it. While I almost always cave first (much to the fruit flies’ dismay), I can’t keep letting the dishes sit. It’s disgusting. Dave and I both grew up in very clean houses. A clean sink was as much a part of the homescape as a dog curled up at your feet. We want this for Jed, too. (Of course, as soon as he’s old enough, with respect to child labor laws, he will be doing his share). Key to success: Teamwork. I’m going to have to enlist a partner on this one. I will keep the dishwasher up to speed, but we will both have to rinse dishes and put them in the dishwasher as soon as we’re finished with them. I see a lot of nagging in the New Year.
Today, I’ve already done laundry and I’m headed to a yoga class in half an hour. So far, so good!